Confusing Supererogation With Pride

Confusing Supererogation With Pride

Confusing Supererogation With Pride

Veterans are to prideful to seek help is one concept to describe why veterans neglect assistance in their lives.  I recently saw the depiction drawn by Paul Combs (above) of a soldier being dragged down by pride as the sharks of depression, PTSD, suicide, etc., circle the soldier.  I agree with 95% of what Paul Combs laid out and would like to take this opportunity to discuss on focus on the main issue that he has highlighted of Pride.  I also want to stress this is simply another viewpoint to further the discussion of suicide, PTSD, depression, addiction and other issues that impact our veterans.  It is not an attack on a thoughtful illustration by Paul Combs that depicts issues with our veterans.  Here is where I differ

Suicide: A Call for Compassionate Dialogue

The Truth Behind Suicide: A Call for Compassionate Dialogue

When a suicide occurs, the immediate aftermath often centers on supporting the grieving family and respecting their privacy. This response is rightly rooted in compassion, but it can inadvertently lead to a veil of silence surrounding the reasons behind the tragedy. This silence not only leaves families and communities in confusion, but also prevents a deeper understanding of the complexities surrounding mental health and suicidal thoughts. Much like an accident that no one wants to look into and only avoid the causes behind the accident, will the truth ever be found?

The Unseen Struggles

Suicide is rarely a singular event; it is often the culmination of intricate and deeply personal struggles that remain hidden from view. The reasons behind a person's decision to take their own life can be multifaceted and complex, making it difficult for friends, family, and even professionals to grasp the full picture.

The Complexity of Suicide

Many individuals battling suicidal thoughts are grappling with mental health conditions and behaviors that may not be visible to others. These struggles can include:

  • Depression: Often characterized by feelings of hopelessness, depression can create an internal world that is hard for others to penetrate.

  • Anxiety Disorders: The overwhelming nature of anxiety can lead individuals to feel trapped and unable to see a way out.

  • Addictions: Many turn to substance abuse or destructive behaviors as a coping mechanism, which can further cloud reasoning and exacerbate feelings of despair, failure, or worthiness.

Personal Circumstances

Life events—such as loss, trauma, addictions, or chronic stress—can create a perfect storm of emotional, physical and spiritual pain. These circumstances are often known only to the individual, making it challenging for loved ones to understand why someone would choose such a drastic path.

Behavioral Secrecy

Often, individuals contemplating suicide may keep their behaviors and feelings hidden due to shame or fear of judgment. This secrecy can stem from:

  • Stigma: The societal stigma surrounding mental health issues and behavior can lead individuals to believe that admitting their struggles will result in rejection or ridicule.

  • Fear of Burdening Others: Many people may feel that sharing their pain will burden loved ones, leading them to suffer in silence.

  • Desire for Control: Keeping their struggles hidden may feel like a way to maintain control over their narrative, even at the cost of their own well-being.

The Importance of Professional Inquiry

Just as we thoroughly investigate many accidents to prevent future tragedies, we must approach suicide with the same level of rigorous inquiry. However, mental health professionals often face barriers in reaching below the surface:

  • Privacy Concerns: The emphasis on family privacy can limit access to crucial information.

  • Incomplete Narratives: Those closest to the individual may not have the full picture of their struggles.

  • Hidden Behaviors: As discussed earlier, individuals contemplating suicide often keep their thoughts and actions hidden due to shame or fear of judgment for their behavior and actions.

By not conducting a thorough investigation, we risk missing critical insights that prevent future suicides. This approach is akin to not examining the black box after a plane crash – we lose valuable data that could save lives.

 

The Challenge of Understanding

When someone takes their life, those left behind often grapple with unanswered questions. Why didn’t they reach out for help? What could have been done differently? This uncertainty can lead to feelings of guilt and confusion among family and friends.

The Importance of Compassionate Inquiry

To foster understanding, we must approach discussions about suicide with compassion. It’s essential to recognize that:

  • Every Story is Unique: Each individual’s experience is shaped by personal history, mental health status, and environmental factors. There is no one-size-fits-all explanation.

  • Silence Can Be Painful: When reasons for suicide are not discussed openly, it can leave families feeling isolated in their grief and many question unknown. They may struggle with the belief that they should have seen the signs or intervened.

Bringing Light to Hidden Struggles

To prevent future tragedies, we must create spaces where open dialogue about suicide is encouraged:

- Normalize Conversations: Encourage discussions about mental health and behavior within families and communities. This can help break down barriers and reduce stigma.

- Promote Understanding: Educate communities about the complexities of actions and the various factors that can lead someone to consider suicide.

- Empower Professional Inquiry: Support professionals in conducting thorough, compassionate investigations into suicide cases, similar to how we approach other types of accidents or tragedies.

Conclusion: A Call for Compassionate Dialogue

While it’s essential and compassionate to respect the privacy of families affected by suicide, we must also recognize the profound impact of silence on understanding this complex issue. By bringing light to the hidden struggles behind suicide—through compassionate dialogue—we can foster a culture that prioritizes empathy, understanding, and prevention over confusion, stigma and the unknown. In doing so, we honor those lost while creating pathways for healing and support for those still battling their demons. Let us strive to understand not just the act itself but also the myriad reasons behind it, ensuring that no one feels alone in their pain. This compassionate inquiry can help us uncover the hidden truths that may save lives in the future.

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Transitioning

Something To Think About (STTA)

Below is a compilation of inputs from veterans gathered over the years.  It is not an end-all nor does it provide every answer, but it is something to think about (STTA).  With some slight spelling or other modifications, quotes weren’t changed. 

Transitioning:

·         It's not over, only a different direction in your life.  There is a good life after the military, so prepare for it.  The aspect of Time will change for you, it’s OK!

·         Watch out for the dang TV, while a good distraction, it can distract from life.  Limit yourself daily.  Also limit time on the Web, unless learning, researching, and job hunting.

·         There is a rewarding life for you after the military. Have a plan no matter what and if you are mad/angry when leaving the military; in about three days after you retire or separate (one often retires on a Friday) when Monday comes around everything that you are mad about doesn't matter anymore.  Let it go.

·         You will likely gain weight.  Keep on top of it.  Buy a scale & a big mirror to keep an eye on yourself.  Use them both daily/weekly.  Can't keep eating the carbs (pizza, bread, rolls, etc.) as you used to.

·         Attend the transition brief/classes and medical processes that your service offers, very valuable. Be sure to network.

·         Get a copy of your medical records before you get out & make a digital copy of everything.

·         Get your paper records/files (Military Personnel File (MPF), jump, flight, etc.) & make a digital copy of everything.  Don't wait till the last week.

·         Make sure you get a final dental exam either by the military or get an unbiased one from a civilian dentist.  Valuable for later.

·         Keep only one set of all your military uniforms (svc dress, mess, fatigues, flight suit, helmet, boots).  Get rid of all the rest of that hoarder stuff, and sell or donate everything else (strip the names and rank).  Purge, down-size.

·         If you are getting out early think about joining the Reserves or National Guard.  You'll be 60 before you know it. 

·         Talk to former vets about what they would have done different, if at all.

·  View, and be aware of the following registries: 

· Gulf War Registry, https://www.publichealth.va.gov/exposures/gulfwar/benefits/registry-exam.asp   

·  Burn-Pit Registry  https://veteran.mobilehealth.va.gov/AHBurnPitRegistry/#page/home

·         Million-Vets Program.  https://www.research.va.gov/mvp/

·  Check out https://VA.GOV  one stop shop

Social and Other Support

o   Depression, likely you will have to deal with it at some level in your new life, It's real, be aware. Aging, evolving health issues (i.e. back pain, joint pain, foot pain, losing hair, cancer, weight gain, etc), family stresses, relationships, job rejections, a changing sense of purpose will be factors.  https://www.veteranscrisisline.net/ForVeterans.aspx

o   Social media helps/works, use it, BUT BE AWARE OF ITS LIMITATIONS, THERE ARE DOWNSIDES. Limit your time and be aware of the bull crap.

o   Stay away from negative people/relationships.  They are bad luck & will suck the life (positive outlook) out of you.  Run!  Hang out w/doers & people that make shit happen >> transformational leaders/managers, not transactional.

o   Stop dipping, chewing, smoking, & watch the drinking.

Other

§  Do not file a VA disability (compensation & pension) claim WITHOUT going through/utilizing a veteran service organization (VSO) like the DAV, PVA etc.  Note: Would be like representing yourself in a civil-court trial w/out an attorney.  You just don't do it. Note: Yes, it is feasible.

§  Make sure you, your spouse, partner, and kids all have a copy of your DD-214(s).  Paper & digital.

§  Own some nice clothes for doing an interview or meet-n-greet.  (i.e. business suit, tie, sport coat, slacks, nice shirt or blouse).  Get a haircut/hair-do, get groomed.  Doesn't have to be a high n-tight, or go out to the gala just groomed & well dressed.  Shoes matter, clean, and in good repair. Appearance still & always will matter.

§  Look into your local state property tax exemption, for veterans and disabled veterans

§  Create an account in USA Jobs today & work up a resume (look at the resume builder at thatothersmayrise.org) & upload the supporting documents you will need for applying for jobs you are interested in.

Now get out there and prepare.

There were many who have contributed to these inputs, and they are left basically unchanged as provided. A special thanks to the research done by Bruce Hickson, CMSgt (ret) and John Doyle, CMsgt / Sgt Maj (ret)

Cognitive Agility Skills

New Heights or……. Old Lows?

Cognitive Agility is Life Stability

Transitioning to Health and Cognitive Agility for Life Stability. Cognitive Agility is not the speed of thought, cognition, or memory, but the ability to successfully effect, cope, with, and adapt to changes in life through anticipation, adaptation, and many times reacting with the only adequate control available in the moment. In order to maintain balance an individual must keep certain aspects of their thinking and actions in alignment, much like a gyroscope works to maintain balance. The gyroscope is not still, but is constantly moving to maintain stability, while adjusting and compensating to effects and actions. Life (time) brings uncertainty and risk, adding to the complexity of aging, life, work and emotional circumstances.

Cognitive Agility (Responsiveness, Flexibility, Adaptability, Versaility, Innovativeness and Resilience) is to Mental Health as physical health is to balance, flexibility, endurance and strength.

 Operators use Passion, Perseverance, Grit, and Guts (P2G2) to muster through missions, tough periods of time and pain. It works, but not forever, behaviors will break down if only P2G2 is used for all approaches of life.

 To achieve Cognitive Agility a person must develop the attributes of responsiveness, flexibility, adaptability, versatility, innovativeness and resilience in varying forms, degrees, and levels of intensity. To approach life the same way every time when everything around changes, will often never end well. Cognitive Agility isn’t implying nor should it be inferred to change foundations (unless the foundation is weak and crumbling), but it is to adapt and adjust to life, aging and emotional changes. Here are some broad definitions:

Responsiveness - Anticipate – avoidance – mitigate - Respond timely with proper / adequate effect; doesn’t have to be perfection. Detect, Decide, Act, to Effect when conditions fall outside of normal expectations. Responsiveness is the actions that develop from a combination of Flexibility, Adaptability, Versatility, Innovativeness and Resilience.

Flexibility - More than one way of responding to life and its challenges when the initial response doesn’t work. There is more than one way to approach life.

Adaptability – Change itself, individual attitude or physical response to an event (natural, unnatural, expected or unexpected).

Versatility - Achieve performance or effectiveness in accomplishing a new or altered way of life. Changing to the situation, life and the world around you.

Innovativeness - A NEW way of accomplishing or creating something in your life. When normal or routine actions don’t deliver the desired results in your life.

Resilience – Ability to repair, replace, patch, or reconstitute lost performance, recover as required in the time allowed (could be a lifetime or the next second). Resilience must be developed before, not after an event.

Currently, if an individual believes they lack Mental Health then they are stigmatized by society as being mentally ill. It is unfortunate, mentally ill is often perceived as deficient by the individual and those around them with a noted prejudice and bias. If an individual is assessed to be at a specific Cognitive Agility level, then it is a simple assessment of areas to be worked on and it is not a stigma or disorder to be eradicated. The next steps are to focus on the areas that require strengthening in a program, similar to a physical workout program, step by step, while maintaining your other agility areas.

Next, Dealing with Uncertainty, Risk, and Time. Contact us at founder.director@thatothersmayrise.org or at the number at the bottom of the page. We charge nothing and only ask for your effort to move forward to a productive life with purpose.

 

BUSINESS - Something To Think About: Starting a Business - Bridging the Gap

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Special Thanks to Thom Beres, USAF, Col (ret)

You Want to Start A Business:

12 Things to Think About

The vast majority of people leaving the service still need to earn a living for many years before they can retire. Many want the security of a steady income and a set retirement date. For them a government job or a working for a company fits the bill.  There are a few individuals that are willing to accept more risk to pursue a dream or have a more flexible work regime. These people often choose to start their own business. When I transitioned, friends and I looked at several business prospects before deciding to pursue our individual paths.  I found that my best fit was to establish a consulting firm between working for major companies on projects that interested me. This required me to establish and dissolve my business between stints working for a company. Over the years I found there were a dozen or so consistent considerations I needed to address before establishing my business entity.

First get an honest appraisal of your strengths and weaknesses from others you respect. You may think you are easy to work with, but others may not see you that way. You may think you are great at conducting meetings and gaining consensus, but it may have only been your position at the time that got everyone to agree with you. Next reach out to the Small Business Administration (SBA) for information and arrange for an appointment with an SBA consular. The SBA can give you an honest appraisal of your plan and chances of success and pitfalls to avoid. Once you know your personal and business plans strengths and weaknesses you can see how they impact other considerations and figure out how to overcome them on your path to a successful business.

Next, are you a business person or an entrepreneur? My SBA counselor brought this up immediately. You see it often if you watch Shark Tank on TV. An entrepreneur loves creating something to sell not be tied to it forever. A business person wants to own something and grow it into an established company that will provide them a steady income. A business person has a hard time letting go of it even if it is failing. Entrepreneurs will see if it works and if not leave it and start something else.  Many of your business decisions will differ depending on what type of person you are. The emphasis of where resources are applied are different for each type.

What kind of business? If it’s a franchise, you are for all intents operating someone else’s business plan not your own with all the franchise restrictions, but also with built in business expertise to help you.  I ended up creating a personal consulting company which provided services. You may want to create a company providing products and services. My company was just myself and others on a contingent basis, but my earlier other ideas would have required me to hire other people and finance resources.  Where you will spend “your” time and effort operating a business will vary greatly on whether you have employees or not.

The SBA told me most lawn and garden service companies (my first idea) are dissolved after the owner hires between 5-10 people. They closed not due to a lack of business, but because the owners were spending most of their time in an office, managing people or growing their business instead of being outside. Their passion was for yard work not office management. The counselor also said small business startups find it hard to pay people to do things like accounting and invoicing because they see it taking money out of their pocket rather than freeing them to do more high value things like customer relations and business development. So, my advice is to follow your passion so the 12-hour work days seven days a week seem enjoyable and pay someone else to do what you don’t like to do.

What kind of legal business entity will you operate under? A Limited Liability Company (LLC), an S corporation or a fully incorporated C corporation? All are established at the state level though federal laws impact how they operate. In Virginia an LLC can be done on line for a couple hundred dollars and the county license is less than a hundred dollars.

I am no lawyer but this is my laymen’s view of each business entity:

An LLC is quick and easy and shelters your personal assets from your company’s liabilities. This alleviates the spouse’s concern that someone could sue your company and take the house. If your company is sued only the company assets are at risk. All profits at the end of the year pass through to your personal gross income line (check the new 2018 tax changes to see how they are now handled). My businesses were always LLCs and I never kept more than $200 in the company account just in case someone sued because of what I recommended or wrote.

An S Corporation is called an S corporation based on the IRS chapter that covers it. Whereas an LLC works well when only one person owns the business an S Corp works well for a small business with more than one shareholder or partner., An S Corp is easier to establish and administer than a C Corp while still having many advantages of a bigger C Corp. Again, all profits fall through to the shareholders/partners as personal income and cannot be deferred to another year.

A C Corporation is what most of us are familiar with when a company has Inc after the name. Usually it is a large company with many shareholders, but doesn’t have to be. They can be expensive to establish and covered by many state and federal rules and regulations. A C Corp does allow the company to defer profits to future years, apply different tax rates and pay yourself a salary and dividends rather than requiring all profits to pass through to your personal income line each year. An LLC or a S Corp may grow and need to change to a C Corp, but they don’t have to despite their size.  Most of the President’s businesses were formed as LLCs that dissolved if they went bankrupt.  I simply dissolved my LLCs whenever I accepted an offer to work for another company.

Once you know the type of business entity you will operate, you have to decide where you will establish it. What state? Each has their own requirements and most require you operate in some manner in that state. This decision really impacts your cost of doing business. An example would be the difference of a consulting LLC established in Virginia vs California. California regulations and income tax are much more than in Virginia. Establishing your business in Virginia does not preclude you from doing business for a client in another state or even opening an office in another state.

Now you know the state you will establish your business, what will you use as your “place” of business? Your home, and office or a P.O. Box? You will need a local business license for wherever you get your business mail. As a consultant you will usually work at the client’s or a contract location and business meetings will either be done at the local Starbucks or client’s office. Added: In today’s age, Zoom or another web-based meeting site is effective in many cases, so consider setting up your account, evaluate the many different types out there. Does your customer-base use a specific type of account, cost, flexibility, etc..

Things to consider for a home office (my choice). Does your HOA or zoning allow it? Where will you meet clients? Do you need or want to declare a home office for property tax purposes? (This may complicate the sale of the home later if you depreciated the office square footage for taxes?)

A P.O. box doesn’t send a good signal to corporate customers, but may be acceptable if you are selling products over the internet.

An office or storefront is expensive, but may be necessary for success if working for small home-based businesses or selling a product.

Considerations for naming your company. The SBA pointed out how important it is for the name to say what you do somewhere in the title. “Neat Clips” may be a great name but it needs to say whether it is for dog grooming or haircuts. “Neat Clips Dog Grooming” would be better but “Neat Clips Pet Grooming” would be better because it does not limit the business to dogs, in case you want to expand into more than dog grooming. Mine was Cascades Strategic Defense Consultants (CSDC LLC).  I stayed clear of using my personal name since it would have no meaning to many customers and could not convey a larger size if my company grew.  You also need to Google any name you consider and associated names such as CSDC to make sure it is not being used by anyone else or the initials do not reflect something undesirable. Once you have chosen a name you will also need to make sure you buy any domain names that reflect the name or misspellings of the name such as .net .com and .org etc. so customers always get you and not someone else if they mistype your address. My business used GoDaddy for all my internet requirements but look at other providers that may fit you better.  Once you have a good name you can fill out the paperwork and establish your business. What is next?

Got a clearance and want to keep it?  This creates a problem for a lot of new businesses supporting Federal government contracts. Basically, you need to find another company that has a Facility Security Office (FSO) office that will hold your clearance for you. This means you have to be hired by that company in some manner and put against a contract even if not doing much work on the contract. Usually, the FSO firm will hire you as a 1099 consultant for pay and security clearance purposes. This usually is for hourly work and for payment through an invoice you provide.  Normally this will not preclude you from accepting other work from other companies. This symbiotic relationship works especially well if you seek out new contracts for the company that holds your clearance with an understanding they will hire you for some tasks if they win the bid. Basically, you are doing some free business development research for the firm in exchange for them holding your clearance.

Finances. Money in and money out.  Be prepared for payment for your product or services to lag 30-90 days after sending an end of the month invoice. Can you handle this payment lag?  Retainers buy a certain amount of your hours monthly before they are done. They can be nice and soften the payment lag of regular invoicing, but remember the client providing the retainer expects you to do their work before anyone else and to be available when needed. A retainer can limit your scheduling of additional clients.

Time management is a major consideration when starting a small business.  Are you going to do your own bookkeeping using QuickBooks? How about personnel management? How much time are you going to spend on business development and staying in contact with past and future clients? All these take time you will NOT be paid for directly and take away from time doing billable tasks. The SBA rule of thumb is it will take two hours of your time for every hour of billable time. I found if I did all the items listed above it was more like three to one. Of course, you can outsource some of the tasks, but then that may seem like taking money out of your pocket. You really need to evaluate what your time is worth and where you should apply it.

So how much is your time worth? If a consultant how much do you charge and how do you bill for it? What do you expect the client to cover and what do you plan to cover as part of your rate? If you are selling a product, what factors do you include in computing the price? If selling a product what does your profit margin need to be in order to cover all costs and make it worth your effort?

The first lesson you learn is to charge what the market will allow NOT the lowest cost that you can provide it. This is called maximizing your profit margin. If everyone else has an hourly rate of $150 why charge $75 even if you would be happy getting $75? Once you set your rate all clients will expect that rate. Small businesses expect a lower rate than what a major can afford so you may need to decide what size client you want to focus on. Often you will be told what rate the client is willing to pay, especially if it is a large company or if it is in support of a government contract where the rate is in the contract. The client can pay you more than the government rate, but understand any additional money comes out of the client’s profit.

How you bill for your work may be dictated by the client, but normally it is done by a monthly invoice. Some want to be billed in six-minute increments and some in fifteen-minute increments. My minimum billable time was for 15 minutes for any phone call etc.  I was always available 24/7, but they knew if they called me with a question they would be billed for the call. I logged all start and stop times on my Outlook calendar. For meetings in the area I required a half day minimum and out of the area was a full day minimum charge. I also billed for meeting preparation time and a client post meeting report. Basically, if you are doing things for a client it is billable. I did expect the client to reimburse me for travel and meal expenses but not for travel time per se. If I did client work on the plane I charged for that work effort but not the travel time.  The monthly client invoice should include the date, duration and a short note on what the time was used for such as “meeting preparation”, “teleconference” or “preparing meeting report”.

At this point you have a company with a great name and you know what you are going to charge. Now how do you find a customer? If consulting there are several sources to find out what government contracts are coming up on FEDBIZOPS. Get an account and look for efforts that could use your talents then contact companies listed and offer to work as a 1099 consultant IF they win. Be careful not to lock yourself in with a single bidder prior to the contract award. Sell your talents not your sole! Get a LinkedIn account and look at job postings for the type of work you like to do and contact those companies for “information” interviews “in case” you want to apply for a position. Don’t hide that you are currently an independent consultant doing 1099 work. They may just put you on a list for future work.  If selling a product find out who has competing products and where they are or are not sold and decide whether to challenge the competitors or beat them to a new area. If you hustle you will find you get lots of leads and more work than you can safely handle. For consultants, overbooking can become a problem and turning down work becomes an issue since the client may not return when you do have time.

That is my dirty dozen of things you need to consider before you start a business. In the end, I found many of the passions I wanted to pursue were best pursued as a volunteer and not by my owning a company to do them. I found that by starting a small consulting LLC I came across and accepted job offers by companies that had projects that I found interesting and rewarding. Once the project was done and I accomplished my goals I then found I did not want to just build a second career in the company so I would transition back to my LLC until the next interesting job offer came along. This allowed me to do everything from concept development for major defense contractors to government contract pursuits by both large and small companies to include managing the conduct of daily flight operations throughout Afghanistan.

Starting your own business is risky. Fifty percent of all restaurants don’t last a year. Transitioning from the service entails a lot of unknowns and risk. If you want security, get a job and work for someone else, don’t start a business. If you can stand the risk, want to be your own boss, and have a passion for creating something new then starting a business may be the right thing for you. For me establishing a business was merely a tool not an end goal for finding the next challenging opportunity to apply my skills and learn new ones.

Editor’s Note: STRATEGIC PLAN: A critical area often overlooked when starting a business is making a Strategic Plan. Sounds like fun, doesn’t it, but it is important to keep a business on track. There will be many distractions and desires to do this or do that and while there may be opportunities to attack, the strategic plan is a foundation to build upon. More on this later…

The author is an Air Force Special Operations Colonel (ret) and created two LLCs and worked for Lockheed Martin, a government agency, AAR Corporation, and several large and small consulting companies. 

 

Elmer & Zizi (EZ) Scholarship

Elmer & Zizi (EZ)         Scholarship

 That Others May Rise is announcing the Elmer – Zizi (E-Z) Scholarship Program to initially focus efforts on children and adults in the country of Cabo Verde, with a long-range goal of providing educational opportunities and a lifting hand to many in the United States.  So why the Elmer-Zizi Scholarship Program and what’s in a name?

First the easy part as the old saying goes, age before beauty, so Elmer before Zizi.   Elmer and Zizi, different names in of themselves, two diverse individuals with totally disparate backgrounds from dissimilar cultures, but very similar in their actions.   Elmer and Zizi believe(d) in dreams coming through hard work and commitment.  Elmer Miller born in the United States, served in the US Navy, raised a family of three as a Pennsylvania steel worker, and was always there to lend a helping hand, a symbol of freedom, commitment, sacrifice and dedication to all who knew him as a friend, neighbor, brother, uncle, father, grandfather, and great grandfather.  Zizi or Maria Mendes, born in Brava and raised in Fogo, Cabo Verde, immigrated to the US, raised a family of three while working in the Massachusetts textile factories, learned English and became a US citizen and is always there to lend a helping hand, a symbol of freedom, commitment, sacrifice and dedication who know her as sister, aunt, mother, grandmother, and great grandmother.  Both represent the compassion of people, both are images of hard work, both are icons for humanity, both are more alike than they were ever different.  Elmer is no longer with us physically on this earth and Zizi continues to bless us with her devotion to others every day.

Monster Catch 2022 Continues

Monster Catch 2022 Continues

MONSTER CATCH 2022 - HeRoes 4 ALS: Many of us take the joy of fishing for granted, grab a rod, walk to the lake, hop on a boat and there you are, catching those lake monsters. Now imagine being restricted to a wheelchair or with extremely limited use of your limbs, not so easy. Henry who I’ve written about before wants to change some of that, as he wants to provide opportunity to those inflicted with ALS to catch those L.ake Monsters. Help Henry to help others.

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They Died for...

Some Say They Died For Nothing, I Say They Lived For Everything…

Memorial Day 2020 - PDM

 

Some say what have we gained, they died for nothing…

I say they sacrificed for their brothers and sisters.

Some say look at what we lost, they died for nothing…

I say, they provided for the innocent, for the helpless, for hope.

Some say lives are gone forever, they died for nothing…

I say, they gave courage for many they never knew, for a choice to be had.

Some say the goal was misguided, they died for nothing…

I say, they marched to sound of battle and the mission.

Some say there was no need, they died for nothing…

I say, they were called to a higher duty at home and abroad.

Some say it is a day of sadness, as they died for nothing…

I say, Remember them All, Reflect on their Sacrifice, Rejoice in their Bravery, Rekindle their Spirit.

I say, I don’t care about those who say they died for nothing…

I say, they lived So That Others May Live, that as a beacon someday Others May Rise from tyranny, persecution, and repression.

I say, They lived for us all, they lived for each other, their memory lives in strength, honor, love and courage and that is Everything - Rejoice.